Neutrality as a therapist?


Reader,

Q:

"It’s so easy to fall in the space of dehumanizing myself as a therapist… Neutrality as a therapist feels impossible. It seems like it’s people with most privileged identities who can be neutral?"

A:

First of all, my answer to this question is informed by my identities, both the privileged ones, but most importantly, the marginalized/minoritized ones.

I cannot be neutral as a therapist. I have my own opinions, biases, and judgments. But if my opinions are unhealthy (any internalized -isms or phobias I am still unlearning OR any traumas that make me react impulsively instead of responding thoughtfully), then my opinions have no place in the therapy room.

If my opinions (thoughts, experiences, biases) on the other hand are based on how my experiences of oppression help me empathize with other people’s experiences of oppression, then I will make them known.

So, yes, neutrality as a therapist can feel impossible. At least it feels impossible to me.

Is it therapists with privileged identities who can be neutral? I guess so. I am not one of them entirely, so I don’t know if I can speak from lived experience.

What I can say, as someone who has experienced neutrality when I have been the one being oppressed, is that neutrality usually came from someone who:

  • had privileged identities,
  • had not experienced hardship,
  • was not willing to empathize,
  • did not feel their own experience with being oppressed was validated and therefore was not willing to validate my experience of being oppressed, and/or
  • deep inside was scared of someone like me (with different identities than them)… and the list goes on.

Being neutral is easy; being not neutral takes work.

Thanks for being here,

Silvana @ Decolonize Your Practice

PS.

Please be gentle with yourself. There is much collective grief. Make sure that you are tending to yourself so that you can continue tending to others.

Let's connect!

Hi! I'm Silvana.

I help clinicians, healers, and coaches incorporate decolonized and liberatory values in their practices so that you can have a practice and/or service-based business that is truly affirming and welcoming to clients who hold marginalized identities.

Read more from Hi! I'm Silvana.
three wooden figures resting on a surface

Reader, A quick update on what I've been up to: 📖 Reading: Room At The Table, A Leader's Guide To Advancing Health Equity And Justice by Dr. Renée Branch Canady 🖥️ Developing a self-paced course on identities and intersectionality as key components of having a decolonial practice. Get automatically on the waitlist by clicking this link. ☀️ The last round (ever) of the program Decolonize Your Practice later this year. This will be a condensed version and you can automatically get on the...

road flanked by evergreens

Reader, A quick update on what I've been working on: 🎙️ A podcast interview with Shelby Leigh from Relationship As Medicine on What Grad School Didn't Teach Us 📖 A course on identities and intersectionality as key components of having a decolonial practice. Get automatically on the waitlist by clicking this link. ☀️ The last round (ever) of the program Decolonize Your Practice later this year. This will be a condensed version and you can automatically get on the waitlist by clicking this...

Silvana, a brown woman with black curly hair, wearing a denim top, stands in front of an audience. Behind her, a black curtain displays several college flags.

Reader, It’s been a few weeks since I last landed in your inbox, and I want to take a moment to reconnect. Life has been full (and I imagine yours has too). Whether you’ve been navigating the heaviness of the world, showing up for your community, or just trying to get through the day, I see you. If you’re new here, welcome! I’m so glad you found your way to this newsletter (and a big thank-you to those who sent you this way!) A few things I’ve been up to lately: 💫 I prepared and delivered a...