Unlearning through grief


Reader,

Grief.

Grief and more grief.

Grief is the thing.

When we commit to decolonial healing, we cannot bypass grief.

We can’t skip over the ache, the heaviness, the heartbreak that comes when we finally see what colonialism, capitalism, and oppression have taken from us, and from the people we serve.

Decolonial grief is not a side note in the work.

It is the work.

Grief is the teacher that helps us unlearn and deprogram what no longer serves us—internally, relationally, collectively. It invites us to notice the gaps, the absences, the places where we’ve been surviving without what we truly needed.

When we move through grief -not past it, but with it- we begin to sense what we need instead, we unlearn. And in that noticing, there is possibility. Possibility for more aligned care, more honest relationships, more liberatory ways of being with one another.

As therapists, healers, helpers, and space holders, this is essential to model. Not that we “have it all together,” not that we’ve neatly resolved our pain, but that we are in the ongoing, messy, necessary work of grieving. That we let our grief guide us toward the future we want to help build.

Grief is healing.

Grief is resistance.

Grief is decolonial healing work.


🪞 Reflection Prompts for Journaling

  1. Where in your work or life are you avoiding grief because it feels too disruptive or uncomfortable?
  2. What personal or collective losses need your attention right now?
  3. How has grief shaped your understanding of what’s truly needed in your practice?
  4. In what ways can you model an honest, decolonial relationship to grief for the people you serve?

🔥 Hit reply and share your reflections with me, I want to know what's happening in your world!

Here's to more healing for us through decolonial grief,

In community,

Silvana @ Decolonize Your Practice

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